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One of the most disturbing statistics I’ve read for a long time was published this week. The Work Foundation claims that job satisfaction in this country has fallen alarmingly. Women’s satisfaction level has fallen from 51 percent in 1992 to 29 percent today; men’s has fallen from 35 percent to 20. The reason — the long-hours culture and job insecurity.
For my father’s generation, work was something that had to be endured so that real life could be maintained. But my generation has been gulled into thinking that work is real life, Most work is not satisfying. Most work stinks. Most work, however well paid, is meaningless and dull. But somehow we’ve been convinced that work provides self-fulfillment.
Before Mrs Thatcher, we had a famous British attitude to work — the less we did the better. Thatcher introduced the idea that, in a world where identity was so fragile, you could become real through work, through long hours and assiduous consumption, in the small amount of time you had been left after clocking off. Now Blair carries on the crusade, I’ve got one of the best jobs in the world — sitting in an office by myself all day trying to make up something that someone somewhere will be interested in. But I’d rather be stretched out in front of the TV, or in bed, or playing tennis, or doing just about anything else.
Much of feminist thought has been about getting what men have traditionally had without examining the underlying assumption of whether it was worth having. Feminism never ended up with a life built around creative leisure, instead, women of talent and drive threw themselves into the labour pool, believing that work and its attendant income and power would affect the change of life and consciousness that would liberate them.
Can anything be done Only if we’re willing to change the way we’ve been tricked into thinking. Most people now measure their lives primarily in units of currency — money saved and spent. I have a friend who’ll travel halfway across London for a shoe sale, without factoring in how much of her precious time has been spent travelling. The most important truth I know is that all we ever own is the time we were given on this earth. We need to seize it back. Now the future has arrived, and we have the means to do it — we just don’t have the imagination.

"I delight in Buckingham Palace", said Queen Victoria, when she moved in three weeks after ascending to the throne. Today the 40-acre secluded garden contains specimen shrubs, trees and a large lake. Eight to nine thousand people visit it during the annual garden parties.
It took George Ⅳ, on becoming King in 1820, and John Nash, Surveyor-general to GeorgeⅣ when he was Prince Regent, many years to turn the house into a sumptuous palace. Nash demolished the North and South wings and rebuilt them. He constructed Marble Arch as a grand entrance to the enlarged courtyard. As work continued, Nash let his costs run away with him, and Parliament complained. Joseph Hume, an English politician and reformer fighting for financial retrenchment, said, "The Crown of England does not require such splendour. Foreign countries might indulge in frippery, but England ought to pride herself on her plainness and simplicity." Nevertheless, elegance reigned.
Queen Victoria was crowned in 1837. When she moved in, Buckingham Palace became, for the first time, the official London residence of Britain’s sovereigns. There wasn’t a room large enough for grand entertainments, so in 1853 — 1855, Queen Victoria ordered the Ballroom built. 122 feet long, 60 feet wide and 45 feet high, it is, today, used for many events such as the State Banquet, the Diplomatic Reception, and memorial concerts. This is the site of Investitures, where the Queen (who was crowned in 1952) presents the recipients of British honours with their awards. During World War Ⅱ, a chapel, converted by Queen Victoria from Nash’s conservatory, was bombed. Prince Philip oversaw its rebuilding as the Queen’s Gallery, home to a rotating collection of art from the Royal Collection. The Gallery, currently in the process of renovation, will reopen in 2002 for the Queen’s Golden Jubilee.
More than 600 rooms, including 52 Royal and guest bedrooms, 188 staff bedrooms, 92 offices and 78 bathrooms comprise the castle’s assets. But the "room" best known around the world is the Balcony where the Royal family’ gathers on celebratory and solemn occasions to be seen by their subjects.
The Palace is more than a home for the Royals. It is the official administrative headquarters of the monarchy and contains the Offices of their staff. It is the place where all Royal ceremonies and official banquets are held. Government ministers, top civil servants and heads of state visit to carry out their duties. It brings a whole new meaning to the phrase "working from home".

Why Men Explode
Although women get angry just as often as men, rage remains the prototypical male emotion. "My kids still talk about my ’freak-outs, ’" says Kim Garretson, 54, a corporate strategist in Minneapolis, who once erupted into volcanic fury; in a restaurant when served a still-frozen entree. "I didn’t express much of anything, but once in a while, I’d just blow."
Why do so many men lose their tempers "The rage comes because there’s so much frustration when you cut off something that is you. Yet that’s what men do, because they’re afraid that if you give emotions an inch, they’ll take a mile," says psychologist Kenneth W. Christian, PhD, author of Your Own Worst Enemy. "If you don’t learn how to work with your emotions, you’re a shadow figure, a small incomplete version of yourself. It’s only a matter of time until the house of cards that you are falls apart."
For Kim Garretson, that day came four years ago when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. As often happens when illness strikes men, he realized he had nothing to lose, and everything to gain, by letting himself feel. "I’m no longer afraid of expressing almost any emotion," he says. "I get anger out with my quick, sharp tongue and move on. 1 use humor as an outlet, I’ve reconnected with old friends. 1 talk about the big questions of life. I search for spiritual meaning."
Guys, Try These
In his Dirty Harry days, Clint Eastwood never flinched. Now as a husband, father and Oscar-winning director of movies that explore the depths of men’s souls, the tough guy has turned tender — but not talkative. "The men who hide their emotions the most may, in fact be the most sensitive," observes Christian. Yet men can become more emotionally expressive without tears or fears. Here are some ways to start:
· Develop a creative outlet. Hobbies like painting or playing a musical instrument can tap into a man’s soul. Remember that much of the world’s greatest art, music and literature was created by the allegedly emotionally challenged sex.
· Release stress and anger through exercise. "When you get to the breaking point where you just want to put your head through a wall, taking a ten-minute time-out isn’t enough to calm down," says Westover, who in moments of extreme emotion finds a place to drop to the floor and do push-ups.
· Try expressing "a little" emotion. "Start with feelings you can control, find a sympathetic ear and use the term ’a little,’" suggests Coleman. Saying you feel "a little" sad or "a little" scared feels safer than a full declaration of vulnerability.
· Lean into the discomfort. "Rather than avoiding a feeling that you’re not sure how to handle, move toward it," says psychologist Travis Bradbury, PhD, co-author of The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book. "Learning to handle emotions takes time and practice, because you need to retrain your brain, but it does get easier."

"I delight in Buckingham Palace", said Queen Victoria, when she moved in three weeks after ascending to the throne. Today the 40-acre secluded garden contains specimen shrubs, trees and a large lake. Eight to nine thousand people visit it during the annual garden parties.
It took George Ⅳ, on becoming King in 1820, and John Nash, Surveyor-general to GeorgeⅣ when he was Prince Regent, many years to turn the house into a sumptuous palace. Nash demolished the North and South wings and rebuilt them. He constructed Marble Arch as a grand entrance to the enlarged courtyard. As work continued, Nash let his costs run away with him, and Parliament complained. Joseph Hume, an English politician and reformer fighting for financial retrenchment, said, "The Crown of England does not require such splendour. Foreign countries might indulge in frippery, but England ought to pride herself on her plainness and simplicity." Nevertheless, elegance reigned.
Queen Victoria was crowned in 1837. When she moved in, Buckingham Palace became, for the first time, the official London residence of Britain’s sovereigns. There wasn’t a room large enough for grand entertainments, so in 1853 — 1855, Queen Victoria ordered the Ballroom built. 122 feet long, 60 feet wide and 45 feet high, it is, today, used for many events such as the State Banquet, the Diplomatic Reception, and memorial concerts. This is the site of Investitures, where the Queen (who was crowned in 1952) presents the recipients of British honours with their awards. During World War Ⅱ, a chapel, converted by Queen Victoria from Nash’s conservatory, was bombed. Prince Philip oversaw its rebuilding as the Queen’s Gallery, home to a rotating collection of art from the Royal Collection. The Gallery, currently in the process of renovation, will reopen in 2002 for the Queen’s Golden Jubilee.
More than 600 rooms, including 52 Royal and guest bedrooms, 188 staff bedrooms, 92 offices and 78 bathrooms comprise the castle’s assets. But the "room" best known around the world is the Balcony where the Royal family’ gathers on celebratory and solemn occasions to be seen by their subjects.
The Palace is more than a home for the Royals. It is the official administrative headquarters of the monarchy and contains the Offices of their staff. It is the place where all Royal ceremonies and official banquets are held. Government ministers, top civil servants and heads of state visit to carry out their duties. It brings a whole new meaning to the phrase "working from home".

One of the most disturbing statistics I’ve read for a long time was published this week. The Work Foundation claims that job satisfaction in this country has fallen alarmingly. Women’s satisfaction level has fallen from 51 percent in 1992 to 29 percent today; men’s has fallen from 35 percent to 20. The reason — the long-hours culture and job insecurity.
For my father’s generation, work was something that had to be endured so that real life could be maintained. But my generation has been gulled into thinking that work is real life, Most work is not satisfying. Most work stinks. Most work, however well paid, is meaningless and dull. But somehow we’ve been convinced that work provides self-fulfillment.
Before Mrs Thatcher, we had a famous British attitude to work — the less we did the better. Thatcher introduced the idea that, in a world where identity was so fragile, you could become real through work, through long hours and assiduous consumption, in the small amount of time you had been left after clocking off. Now Blair carries on the crusade, I’ve got one of the best jobs in the world — sitting in an office by myself all day trying to make up something that someone somewhere will be interested in. But I’d rather be stretched out in front of the TV, or in bed, or playing tennis, or doing just about anything else.
Much of feminist thought has been about getting what men have traditionally had without examining the underlying assumption of whether it was worth having. Feminism never ended up with a life built around creative leisure, instead, women of talent and drive threw themselves into the labour pool, believing that work and its attendant income and power would affect the change of life and consciousness that would liberate them.
Can anything be done Only if we’re willing to change the way we’ve been tricked into thinking. Most people now measure their lives primarily in units of currency — money saved and spent. I have a friend who’ll travel halfway across London for a shoe sale, without factoring in how much of her precious time has been spent travelling. The most important truth I know is that all we ever own is the time we were given on this earth. We need to seize it back. Now the future has arrived, and we have the means to do it — we just don’t have the imagination.

Why Men Explode
Although women get angry just as often as men, rage remains the prototypical male emotion. "My kids still talk about my ’freak-outs, ’" says Kim Garretson, 54, a corporate strategist in Minneapolis, who once erupted into volcanic fury; in a restaurant when served a still-frozen entree. "I didn’t express much of anything, but once in a while, I’d just blow."
Why do so many men lose their tempers "The rage comes because there’s so much frustration when you cut off something that is you. Yet that’s what men do, because they’re afraid that if you give emotions an inch, they’ll take a mile," says psychologist Kenneth W. Christian, PhD, author of Your Own Worst Enemy. "If you don’t learn how to work with your emotions, you’re a shadow figure, a small incomplete version of yourself. It’s only a matter of time until the house of cards that you are falls apart."
For Kim Garretson, that day came four years ago when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. As often happens when illness strikes men, he realized he had nothing to lose, and everything to gain, by letting himself feel. "I’m no longer afraid of expressing almost any emotion," he says. "I get anger out with my quick, sharp tongue and move on. 1 use humor as an outlet, I’ve reconnected with old friends. 1 talk about the big questions of life. I search for spiritual meaning."
Guys, Try These
In his Dirty Harry days, Clint Eastwood never flinched. Now as a husband, father and Oscar-winning director of movies that explore the depths of men’s souls, the tough guy has turned tender — but not talkative. "The men who hide their emotions the most may, in fact be the most sensitive," observes Christian. Yet men can become more emotionally expressive without tears or fears. Here are some ways to start:
· Develop a creative outlet. Hobbies like painting or playing a musical instrument can tap into a man’s soul. Remember that much of the world’s greatest art, music and literature was created by the allegedly emotionally challenged sex.
· Release stress and anger through exercise. "When you get to the breaking point where you just want to put your head through a wall, taking a ten-minute time-out isn’t enough to calm down," says Westover, who in moments of extreme emotion finds a place to drop to the floor and do push-ups.
· Try expressing "a little" emotion. "Start with feelings you can control, find a sympathetic ear and use the term ’a little,’" suggests Coleman. Saying you feel "a little" sad or "a little" scared feels safer than a full declaration of vulnerability.
· Lean into the discomfort. "Rather than avoiding a feeling that you’re not sure how to handle, move toward it," says psychologist Travis Bradbury, PhD, co-author of The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book. "Learning to handle emotions takes time and practice, because you need to retrain your brain, but it does get easier."

One of the most disturbing statistics I’ve read for a long time was published this week. The Work Foundation claims that job satisfaction in this country has fallen alarmingly. Women’s satisfaction level has fallen from 51 percent in 1992 to 29 percent today; men’s has fallen from 35 percent to 20. The reason — the long-hours culture and job insecurity.
For my father’s generation, work was something that had to be endured so that real life could be maintained. But my generation has been gulled into thinking that work is real life, Most work is not satisfying. Most work stinks. Most work, however well paid, is meaningless and dull. But somehow we’ve been convinced that work provides self-fulfillment.
Before Mrs Thatcher, we had a famous British attitude to work — the less we did the better. Thatcher introduced the idea that, in a world where identity was so fragile, you could become real through work, through long hours and assiduous consumption, in the small amount of time you had been left after clocking off. Now Blair carries on the crusade, I’ve got one of the best jobs in the world — sitting in an office by myself all day trying to make up something that someone somewhere will be interested in. But I’d rather be stretched out in front of the TV, or in bed, or playing tennis, or doing just about anything else.
Much of feminist thought has been about getting what men have traditionally had without examining the underlying assumption of whether it was worth having. Feminism never ended up with a life built around creative leisure, instead, women of talent and drive threw themselves into the labour pool, believing that work and its attendant income and power would affect the change of life and consciousness that would liberate them.
Can anything be done Only if we’re willing to change the way we’ve been tricked into thinking. Most people now measure their lives primarily in units of currency — money saved and spent. I have a friend who’ll travel halfway across London for a shoe sale, without factoring in how much of her precious time has been spent travelling. The most important truth I know is that all we ever own is the time we were given on this earth. We need to seize it back. Now the future has arrived, and we have the means to do it — we just don’t have the imagination.

"I delight in Buckingham Palace", said Queen Victoria, when she moved in three weeks after ascending to the throne. Today the 40-acre secluded garden contains specimen shrubs, trees and a large lake. Eight to nine thousand people visit it during the annual garden parties.
It took George Ⅳ, on becoming King in 1820, and John Nash, Surveyor-general to GeorgeⅣ when he was Prince Regent, many years to turn the house into a sumptuous palace. Nash demolished the North and South wings and rebuilt them. He constructed Marble Arch as a grand entrance to the enlarged courtyard. As work continued, Nash let his costs run away with him, and Parliament complained. Joseph Hume, an English politician and reformer fighting for financial retrenchment, said, "The Crown of England does not require such splendour. Foreign countries might indulge in frippery, but England ought to pride herself on her plainness and simplicity." Nevertheless, elegance reigned.
Queen Victoria was crowned in 1837. When she moved in, Buckingham Palace became, for the first time, the official London residence of Britain’s sovereigns. There wasn’t a room large enough for grand entertainments, so in 1853 — 1855, Queen Victoria ordered the Ballroom built. 122 feet long, 60 feet wide and 45 feet high, it is, today, used for many events such as the State Banquet, the Diplomatic Reception, and memorial concerts. This is the site of Investitures, where the Queen (who was crowned in 1952) presents the recipients of British honours with their awards. During World War Ⅱ, a chapel, converted by Queen Victoria from Nash’s conservatory, was bombed. Prince Philip oversaw its rebuilding as the Queen’s Gallery, home to a rotating collection of art from the Royal Collection. The Gallery, currently in the process of renovation, will reopen in 2002 for the Queen’s Golden Jubilee.
More than 600 rooms, including 52 Royal and guest bedrooms, 188 staff bedrooms, 92 offices and 78 bathrooms comprise the castle’s assets. But the "room" best known around the world is the Balcony where the Royal family’ gathers on celebratory and solemn occasions to be seen by their subjects.
The Palace is more than a home for the Royals. It is the official administrative headquarters of the monarchy and contains the Offices of their staff. It is the place where all Royal ceremonies and official banquets are held. Government ministers, top civil servants and heads of state visit to carry out their duties. It brings a whole new meaning to the phrase "working from home".

Why Men Explode
Although women get angry just as often as men, rage remains the prototypical male emotion. "My kids still talk about my ’freak-outs, ’" says Kim Garretson, 54, a corporate strategist in Minneapolis, who once erupted into volcanic fury; in a restaurant when served a still-frozen entree. "I didn’t express much of anything, but once in a while, I’d just blow."
Why do so many men lose their tempers "The rage comes because there’s so much frustration when you cut off something that is you. Yet that’s what men do, because they’re afraid that if you give emotions an inch, they’ll take a mile," says psychologist Kenneth W. Christian, PhD, author of Your Own Worst Enemy. "If you don’t learn how to work with your emotions, you’re a shadow figure, a small incomplete version of yourself. It’s only a matter of time until the house of cards that you are falls apart."
For Kim Garretson, that day came four years ago when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. As often happens when illness strikes men, he realized he had nothing to lose, and everything to gain, by letting himself feel. "I’m no longer afraid of expressing almost any emotion," he says. "I get anger out with my quick, sharp tongue and move on. 1 use humor as an outlet, I’ve reconnected with old friends. 1 talk about the big questions of life. I search for spiritual meaning."
Guys, Try These
In his Dirty Harry days, Clint Eastwood never flinched. Now as a husband, father and Oscar-winning director of movies that explore the depths of men’s souls, the tough guy has turned tender — but not talkative. "The men who hide their emotions the most may, in fact be the most sensitive," observes Christian. Yet men can become more emotionally expressive without tears or fears. Here are some ways to start:
· Develop a creative outlet. Hobbies like painting or playing a musical instrument can tap into a man’s soul. Remember that much of the world’s greatest art, music and literature was created by the allegedly emotionally challenged sex.
· Release stress and anger through exercise. "When you get to the breaking point where you just want to put your head through a wall, taking a ten-minute time-out isn’t enough to calm down," says Westover, who in moments of extreme emotion finds a place to drop to the floor and do push-ups.
· Try expressing "a little" emotion. "Start with feelings you can control, find a sympathetic ear and use the term ’a little,’" suggests Coleman. Saying you feel "a little" sad or "a little" scared feels safer than a full declaration of vulnerability.
· Lean into the discomfort. "Rather than avoiding a feeling that you’re not sure how to handle, move toward it," says psychologist Travis Bradbury, PhD, co-author of The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book. "Learning to handle emotions takes time and practice, because you need to retrain your brain, but it does get easier."

One of the most disturbing statistics I’ve read for a long time was published this week. The Work Foundation claims that job satisfaction in this country has fallen alarmingly. Women’s satisfaction level has fallen from 51 percent in 1992 to 29 percent today; men’s has fallen from 35 percent to 20. The reason — the long-hours culture and job insecurity.
For my father’s generation, work was something that had to be endured so that real life could be maintained. But my generation has been gulled into thinking that work is real life, Most work is not satisfying. Most work stinks. Most work, however well paid, is meaningless and dull. But somehow we’ve been convinced that work provides self-fulfillment.
Before Mrs Thatcher, we had a famous British attitude to work — the less we did the better. Thatcher introduced the idea that, in a world where identity was so fragile, you could become real through work, through long hours and assiduous consumption, in the small amount of time you had been left after clocking off. Now Blair carries on the crusade, I’ve got one of the best jobs in the world — sitting in an office by myself all day trying to make up something that someone somewhere will be interested in. But I’d rather be stretched out in front of the TV, or in bed, or playing tennis, or doing just about anything else.
Much of feminist thought has been about getting what men have traditionally had without examining the underlying assumption of whether it was worth having. Feminism never ended up with a life built around creative leisure, instead, women of talent and drive threw themselves into the labour pool, believing that work and its attendant income and power would affect the change of life and consciousness that would liberate them.
Can anything be done Only if we’re willing to change the way we’ve been tricked into thinking. Most people now measure their lives primarily in units of currency — money saved and spent. I have a friend who’ll travel halfway across London for a shoe sale, without factoring in how much of her precious time has been spent travelling. The most important truth I know is that all we ever own is the time we were given on this earth. We need to seize it back. Now the future has arrived, and we have the means to do it — we just don’t have the imagination.

"I delight in Buckingham Palace", said Queen Victoria, when she moved in three weeks after ascending to the throne. Today the 40-acre secluded garden contains specimen shrubs, trees and a large lake. Eight to nine thousand people visit it during the annual garden parties.
It took George Ⅳ, on becoming King in 1820, and John Nash, Surveyor-general to GeorgeⅣ when he was Prince Regent, many years to turn the house into a sumptuous palace. Nash demolished the North and South wings and rebuilt them. He constructed Marble Arch as a grand entrance to the enlarged courtyard. As work continued, Nash let his costs run away with him, and Parliament complained. Joseph Hume, an English politician and reformer fighting for financial retrenchment, said, "The Crown of England does not require such splendour. Foreign countries might indulge in frippery, but England ought to pride herself on her plainness and simplicity." Nevertheless, elegance reigned.
Queen Victoria was crowned in 1837. When she moved in, Buckingham Palace became, for the first time, the official London residence of Britain’s sovereigns. There wasn’t a room large enough for grand entertainments, so in 1853 — 1855, Queen Victoria ordered the Ballroom built. 122 feet long, 60 feet wide and 45 feet high, it is, today, used for many events such as the State Banquet, the Diplomatic Reception, and memorial concerts. This is the site of Investitures, where the Queen (who was crowned in 1952) presents the recipients of British honours with their awards. During World War Ⅱ, a chapel, converted by Queen Victoria from Nash’s conservatory, was bombed. Prince Philip oversaw its rebuilding as the Queen’s Gallery, home to a rotating collection of art from the Royal Collection. The Gallery, currently in the process of renovation, will reopen in 2002 for the Queen’s Golden Jubilee.
More than 600 rooms, including 52 Royal and guest bedrooms, 188 staff bedrooms, 92 offices and 78 bathrooms comprise the castle’s assets. But the "room" best known around the world is the Balcony where the Royal family’ gathers on celebratory and solemn occasions to be seen by their subjects.
The Palace is more than a home for the Royals. It is the official administrative headquarters of the monarchy and contains the Offices of their staff. It is the place where all Royal ceremonies and official banquets are held. Government ministers, top civil servants and heads of state visit to carry out their duties. It brings a whole new meaning to the phrase "working from home".

Why Men Explode
Although women get angry just as often as men, rage remains the prototypical male emotion. "My kids still talk about my ’freak-outs, ’" says Kim Garretson, 54, a corporate strategist in Minneapolis, who once erupted into volcanic fury; in a restaurant when served a still-frozen entree. "I didn’t express much of anything, but once in a while, I’d just blow."
Why do so many men lose their tempers "The rage comes because there’s so much frustration when you cut off something that is you. Yet that’s what men do, because they’re afraid that if you give emotions an inch, they’ll take a mile," says psychologist Kenneth W. Christian, PhD, author of Your Own Worst Enemy. "If you don’t learn how to work with your emotions, you’re a shadow figure, a small incomplete version of yourself. It’s only a matter of time until the house of cards that you are falls apart."
For Kim Garretson, that day came four years ago when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. As often happens when illness strikes men, he realized he had nothing to lose, and everything to gain, by letting himself feel. "I’m no longer afraid of expressing almost any emotion," he says. "I get anger out with my quick, sharp tongue and move on. 1 use humor as an outlet, I’ve reconnected with old friends. 1 talk about the big questions of life. I search for spiritual meaning."
Guys, Try These
In his Dirty Harry days, Clint Eastwood never flinched. Now as a husband, father and Oscar-winning director of movies that explore the depths of men’s souls, the tough guy has turned tender — but not talkative. "The men who hide their emotions the most may, in fact be the most sensitive," observes Christian. Yet men can become more emotionally expressive without tears or fears. Here are some ways to start:
· Develop a creative outlet. Hobbies like painting or playing a musical instrument can tap into a man’s soul. Remember that much of the world’s greatest art, music and literature was created by the allegedly emotionally challenged sex.
· Release stress and anger through exercise. "When you get to the breaking point where you just want to put your head through a wall, taking a ten-minute time-out isn’t enough to calm down," says Westover, who in moments of extreme emotion finds a place to drop to the floor and do push-ups.
· Try expressing "a little" emotion. "Start with feelings you can control, find a sympathetic ear and use the term ’a little,’" suggests Coleman. Saying you feel "a little" sad or "a little" scared feels safer than a full declaration of vulnerability.
· Lean into the discomfort. "Rather than avoiding a feeling that you’re not sure how to handle, move toward it," says psychologist Travis Bradbury, PhD, co-author of The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book. "Learning to handle emotions takes time and practice, because you need to retrain your brain, but it does get easier."

"I delight in Buckingham Palace", said Queen Victoria, when she moved in three weeks after ascending to the throne. Today the 40-acre secluded garden contains specimen shrubs, trees and a large lake. Eight to nine thousand people visit it during the annual garden parties.
It took George Ⅳ, on becoming King in 1820, and John Nash, Surveyor-general to GeorgeⅣ when he was Prince Regent, many years to turn the house into a sumptuous palace. Nash demolished the North and South wings and rebuilt them. He constructed Marble Arch as a grand entrance to the enlarged courtyard. As work continued, Nash let his costs run away with him, and Parliament complained. Joseph Hume, an English politician and reformer fighting for financial retrenchment, said, "The Crown of England does not require such splendour. Foreign countries might indulge in frippery, but England ought to pride herself on her plainness and simplicity." Nevertheless, elegance reigned.
Queen Victoria was crowned in 1837. When she moved in, Buckingham Palace became, for the first time, the official London residence of Britain’s sovereigns. There wasn’t a room large enough for grand entertainments, so in 1853 — 1855, Queen Victoria ordered the Ballroom built. 122 feet long, 60 feet wide and 45 feet high, it is, today, used for many events such as the State Banquet, the Diplomatic Reception, and memorial concerts. This is the site of Investitures, where the Queen (who was crowned in 1952) presents the recipients of British honours with their awards. During World War Ⅱ, a chapel, converted by Queen Victoria from Nash’s conservatory, was bombed. Prince Philip oversaw its rebuilding as the Queen’s Gallery, home to a rotating collection of art from the Royal Collection. The Gallery, currently in the process of renovation, will reopen in 2002 for the Queen’s Golden Jubilee.
More than 600 rooms, including 52 Royal and guest bedrooms, 188 staff bedrooms, 92 offices and 78 bathrooms comprise the castle’s assets. But the "room" best known around the world is the Balcony where the Royal family’ gathers on celebratory and solemn occasions to be seen by their subjects.
The Palace is more than a home for the Royals. It is the official administrative headquarters of the monarchy and contains the Offices of their staff. It is the place where all Royal ceremonies and official banquets are held. Government ministers, top civil servants and heads of state visit to carry out their duties. It brings a whole new meaning to the phrase "working from home".

One of the most disturbing statistics I’ve read for a long time was published this week. The Work Foundation claims that job satisfaction in this country has fallen alarmingly. Women’s satisfaction level has fallen from 51 percent in 1992 to 29 percent today; men’s has fallen from 35 percent to 20. The reason — the long-hours culture and job insecurity.
For my father’s generation, work was something that had to be endured so that real life could be maintained. But my generation has been gulled into thinking that work is real life, Most work is not satisfying. Most work stinks. Most work, however well paid, is meaningless and dull. But somehow we’ve been convinced that work provides self-fulfillment.
Before Mrs Thatcher, we had a famous British attitude to work — the less we did the better. Thatcher introduced the idea that, in a world where identity was so fragile, you could become real through work, through long hours and assiduous consumption, in the small amount of time you had been left after clocking off. Now Blair carries on the crusade, I’ve got one of the best jobs in the world — sitting in an office by myself all day trying to make up something that someone somewhere will be interested in. But I’d rather be stretched out in front of the TV, or in bed, or playing tennis, or doing just about anything else.
Much of feminist thought has been about getting what men have traditionally had without examining the underlying assumption of whether it was worth having. Feminism never ended up with a life built around creative leisure, instead, women of talent and drive threw themselves into the labour pool, believing that work and its attendant income and power would affect the change of life and consciousness that would liberate them.
Can anything be done Only if we’re willing to change the way we’ve been tricked into thinking. Most people now measure their lives primarily in units of currency — money saved and spent. I have a friend who’ll travel halfway across London for a shoe sale, without factoring in how much of her precious time has been spent travelling. The most important truth I know is that all we ever own is the time we were given on this earth. We need to seize it back. Now the future has arrived, and we have the means to do it — we just don’t have the imagination.

Why Men Explode
Although women get angry just as often as men, rage remains the prototypical male emotion. "My kids still talk about my ’freak-outs, ’" says Kim Garretson, 54, a corporate strategist in Minneapolis, who once erupted into volcanic fury; in a restaurant when served a still-frozen entree. "I didn’t express much of anything, but once in a while, I’d just blow."
Why do so many men lose their tempers "The rage comes because there’s so much frustration when you cut off something that is you. Yet that’s what men do, because they’re afraid that if you give emotions an inch, they’ll take a mile," says psychologist Kenneth W. Christian, PhD, author of Your Own Worst Enemy. "If you don’t learn how to work with your emotions, you’re a shadow figure, a small incomplete version of yourself. It’s only a matter of time until the house of cards that you are falls apart."
For Kim Garretson, that day came four years ago when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. As often happens when illness strikes men, he realized he had nothing to lose, and everything to gain, by letting himself feel. "I’m no longer afraid of expressing almost any emotion," he says. "I get anger out with my quick, sharp tongue and move on. 1 use humor as an outlet, I’ve reconnected with old friends. 1 talk about the big questions of life. I search for spiritual meaning."
Guys, Try These
In his Dirty Harry days, Clint Eastwood never flinched. Now as a husband, father and Oscar-winning director of movies that explore the depths of men’s souls, the tough guy has turned tender — but not talkative. "The men who hide their emotions the most may, in fact be the most sensitive," observes Christian. Yet men can become more emotionally expressive without tears or fears. Here are some ways to start:
· Develop a creative outlet. Hobbies like painting or playing a musical instrument can tap into a man’s soul. Remember that much of the world’s greatest art, music and literature was created by the allegedly emotionally challenged sex.
· Release stress and anger through exercise. "When you get to the breaking point where you just want to put your head through a wall, taking a ten-minute time-out isn’t enough to calm down," says Westover, who in moments of extreme emotion finds a place to drop to the floor and do push-ups.
· Try expressing "a little" emotion. "Start with feelings you can control, find a sympathetic ear and use the term ’a little,’" suggests Coleman. Saying you feel "a little" sad or "a little" scared feels safer than a full declaration of vulnerability.
· Lean into the discomfort. "Rather than avoiding a feeling that you’re not sure how to handle, move toward it," says psychologist Travis Bradbury, PhD, co-author of The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book. "Learning to handle emotions takes time and practice, because you need to retrain your brain, but it does get easier."